Home interview, success

I was pretty emotional when I got the email to officially schedule my home interview.  They said we were going to talk about childhood,  how I was disciplined, how I plan to discipline, etc.  I had no idea what to expect.  The good thing is that for years I have been working on myself, learning about my childhood, why I do certain things in my life based on my childhood, etc.  So asking me to talk about all that actually delights me and I am happy to do so. 

As the meeting approached, I was excited and nervous...obviously.  Aren't we all a bit nervous of the unknown.  OMG where will I park, what do I wear, will the lady interviewing me be nice, will I say all the right things...wait, it's my life of course I will say the right things.  I think a year ago I would have been a nervous wreck but the work I have done has allowed me to stay peaceful about the process for the most part.

My interviewer was great!  She was so nice and welcoming!  We did the interview at the office of Bethany Christian Services which was at a church in a residential area...so of course there was a lot of parking on a Monday afternoon!  The questions she asked were not daunting at all.  I could see how some may have to relive some trauma if they had that going on, but it was really easy for me to answer the questions. 

Some of the questions were along the lines;
How is your relationship with your Father, Mother, Sister.  How was your childhood, what did you do for fun.  When did your parents divorce, do you know why, how does that make you feel.  How were you disciplined, who was the main discipliner.  How do you plan to discipline, what is your schedule and routine like now, how do you see a child effecting that.  How do you eat, how do you plan to feed the child.  LOL if any of you know me, I am sure you might be laughing by now...as soon as you got to the "what is your schedule and routine like".  Yes I am fully aware that my life and schedule will change, will I be able to wake up at 5:30, make coffee, read until 7, go workout and then carry on with my life...probably not.  But you know what, I am going to create routine as best as I can with the child and change my life accordingly! :)

She mentioned that rather than have my criteria at; girl 3 to 6, I should broaden that so that I get a call quicker.  Like maybe do 2 to 8, and willing to do 2 siblings...then when I get the call, I can decide if I am ok with that.  Ack!  Siblings!!!!  That keeps popping up, I suppose we will see what God has in the works here.

After almost 2 hours (was only supposed to be 1.5 hours but of course I had to ask her about her lol),  I asked her how she thought it went and her words, not mine "I think  you did great, you will do great as a foster Mom.  You have a lot of energy and that is needed".  LOL great! 

She sent me with a checksheet of thigns they want to see at the home inspection, which is next Friday the 22nd. Things like: fire extinguishers mounted, evacuation plan (Thank you Silas!) posted, clean rooms with bedding, 2 pages of stuff but stuff that is not a big deal at all to accomplish by next week.  That inspection will take about an hour.  She just wants to see that the home is safe, clean, go through the checklist and meet Silas since he will be around the kiddo a lot as well.  I am so lucky to be on this journey and to have an amazingly wonderful and supportive man who is just as excited about this journey as I am!!! 

I get emotional thinking about the process.  This started so long ago in my brain, as a tiny seed of "huh, maybe I should think about"...to "wow this is a lot of training and the home study seems so far away", to "holy crap the home inspection is next friday"!   My home study gal said she would work on the report and get it turned in right away after the inspection.  I have no idea how long it takes after that to be officially official...but I would suspect that by mid July I will have the good news that I am a licensed FOSTER MOM!  Whaaaaaaaat!!!!!  

Ok stay tuned, next update will be after the home inspection.  Thanks so much for following the story.  Having you all reading this makes thhe process of journaling about it so much better! 









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